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Qualified Psychosynthesis Counsellor, I am a Queer (he/they), neurodivergent & GSRD (Gender, Sex & Relationships Diversity) Therapist, working online, both in English and French.

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Polyamory: Hierarchies & Equality

April 06, 2026 by Lucas Voclere

Polyamorous people or people curious about it often ask questions and debate about hierarchies and equality.

 

Once more, I saw a post on Facebook asking (and I paraphrase) "CAN POLYAMORY BE TRULY EQUALITARIAN * WITHOUT HIERARCHIES?"

 

Here is my attempt to address that very complex question with even more complex answers & perspectives to be found.

 

Thoughts?

 

Also, which question would you like me to address in future posts?

April 06, 2026 /Lucas Voclere /Source
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